Can't Be Tamed

Not a tiger, lion, elephant or any other beast. They can be tamed. You know what? Taming your own senses are much harder than taming those beast. All of your senses are rough and wild I might say. They can do anything without your conscious.

You eyes could see bad things and won't stop for it. For instance, seeing pornography, seeing those who in needs but we sometimes refuse to recognize it.

Your hand is, i think, the hardest to tame physically. When you failed to tame them, hands that support you do generous things could hurt those you love physically, most of the time. Same things for your feet.

Your ears, who can stand against gossip, rumor. Everybody, I have to say, love gossip! Those ears could reject the fact, could slip the truth when information come to an ear, and gone out from another.

Your mouth, could be the wildest, the hardest to tame. They could ultimately destroy one's mood. In extreme case, they could kill, not literally though, but they have capability to do so. They could do bad things out of nowhere, spontaneously. They are the most danger of all.

That's it for now. Christmas is coming! I can't believe it's almost Christmas again.

When Peoples Walk

It's been a time since I last post something in here. Actually couple time I had something that crossed my mind, but I didn't pour it here and I soon forget about it. Now, I have something in my head, and I'm gonna write it now, here.

When people are walking, they various style of viewing their way. Some of them see it straight forward, some are looking all the way around ( I do this!), and some walk with their head down.

People who see the road straight forward, I think they are the people who see everything to the forward, they might not care or bother things. I do think that people who do this are people with determination and they might unaware with the danger that comes from below, back and around them.

People who walk with their head down, people might say that those who did this are people who felt inferior and they might say that people should not walk like this. I disagree. These people are people who are down to the earth, they don't forget the land where they step, they also might be aware of things that might makes them tripped.

People might say that people who see around when walking might don't have principle. Well, I think people who do see around when walking are people who are fully aware of his/her surrounding. They are aware for what might tripped them, what might hit them from right or left, what might stab them from the back, and most importantly they knows what ahead of them.

I think that's all. I don't think I write this well. People might disagree, but hey, it's merely my personal opinion. I have no mean of insulting people here.

When People Stress

Stress is something that is inevitable in people's life. No matter how you do, it will look and come to you. In some case, stress is able to take one's life literally.

After several stress attack, I just know there are some way to counter it and people often use this methods as well.

1. Drink. People usually drink (alcohol) to forget their stress. It is proofed effective temporarily.

2. Extreme Case: usage of drugs. Yes, it's an extreme case, it is said able to distract people from their stress, and even from their regular life.

3. Hobby. Hobby? Yes, it's able to distract. It's harmless in most occasion, and able to fill in your world, also kick stress aside. It's one of the constructive way to kill stress. I develop my photography interest during my stress period sometimes ago.

4. Drink non-alcohol. The same as the 1st point, the difference is you don't drink any alcohol. Coffee, tea, juices are the common example.

5. Find a getaway. Find somewhere pleasant, calming. It's really helpful.

That's it. To clarify, I won't say that currently I am being attacked by stress nor I currently living a happy life, but I just want to share something that crossed my mind (again). Lol. Thanksgiving is coming! Yeay!

Homesick

I guess it's been a while eh? No, currently I'm not having a homesick, I just wanna talk about it, for now.

It's been a couple month for me and my friends here in DVC (it's my 5th month, some entering their 3rd), and they started to miss their home for some reason. It could be because they live alone in here (literally no roommate), or the extreme case, being alienated and having only a few friends.

As far as I know, there are two friends of mine who having those symptom, one manage to overcome it, while the other is just begun feeling it. She feel alone simply because she has few to trust, really few, and I guess she miss her condition back in Indonesia.

Does anyone know how to help her?

Anyhow, in case you're questioning wether I had or have homesick yet or not, yeah. I had once, but not in high stadium. I manage to recover quickly.

I believe homesick have to be cured as soon as possible. If it don't it will ruin both of our daily and academic life. Try to cheer.

The Truth

It's been a time since that wrongly-written post. Anyhow, I didn't post a blog not because of that post, nonetheless because I have no idea to post until now.

Gossip. People do love gossips, some even can be said wandering around looking for it. Often we found that the gossip are nothing but lie or false story (hoax) and those gossips are unknown by the gossiper, literally killing/hurting the subject of the gossip.

The truth. Those who goes with gossip, I believe they know nothing about the truth. Even the people are telling them the truth, they wouldn't listen for they would think, that the responds (which sometimes basically are the truth) merely the form of the subject's self-defense.

Remember this line(s). Don't be discourage just because of gossip. You (and maybe your best friends) know the truth. They can talk or think anything they like about you, but they won't by any chance, know the truth better than you (and again, maybe your best friends) do.

So, why you think about it so much? Sometimes you can say, fuck gossip! Yes, I know I can be considered as hypocrite for despising gossip (yes, I do like gossip), but I won't add more than I heard, and I'm not a story teller who tell story to everyone.

I will do my best not to 'sell' my BEST friend.

About the previous post.

About the previous post, I think I sounded kinda selfish or self-centered, but anyway, I'm not like that. Well, that's merely my personal opinion, and well..

Anyway, that things happened for some times ago. Frankly I do hope whoever saw the previous post not to think of me as a bad one. And, that's natural ain't it?

And also, I would like to apologize to those who feel offended or else. Really sorry. I'm not that selfish, but that's human nature.

Thank you.

Mellow Day

My second post, since I arrived in United States of America. So far is so good for me. I've been through some boring session, and now I'm quite settled in here. Everything was fine and enjoyable, we're all happy until this moment.

Problem are arising. Most of my friends have to face problems of their own, their disagreement either with their family or girl/boyfriend. It just so natural. A boy or girl studies oversea, soon, they break up.

I have to appreciate friends of mine who stay together even though they are apart for almost a year, they are so great. I do hope that they stay together, as long as they can.

Anyway, I have things to concern beside that. Not that I have problem, but, I have goals to achieve.

Menghitung Hari

Ya menghitung hari. Itulah keadaan dari siswa-siswi kelas 3 atau 12 SMA. Mereka menunggu pengumuman kelulusan mereka. Sembari menunggu, mereka diberikan sebuah kebebasan terselubung, kebebasan yang benar-benar bebas atau kebebasan semu.

Benar-benar bebas, apabila mereka pasti lulus, semu, apabila hasil yang mereka ketahui mengecewakan.

Ada sebuah fenomena yang mencuri perhatian penulis beberapa tahun terakhir, siswa-siswi yang selesai ujian (sekolah) biasa merayakannya dengan cara mencoret-coret baju seragam mereka. Menurutku, hal tersebut cukup bodoh. Mengapa? Mereka melakukannya karena merasa sudah lulus, perjuangan sudah usai! Seharusnya mereka menunggu dengan sabar, sampai lonceng pengumuman dibunyikan. Setelah itu, terserah mereka mau merayakannya dengan cara apa.

Berdoalah, karena hari pengumuman sudah dekat. Harapkan yang terbaik.

5/4 Hari Untuk Selamanya

Selama seminggu ini, murid kelas 3 SMA menghadapi UAN (yang tentunya telah mereka selesaikan). Berikutnya, giliran murid kelas 3 SMP yang menghadapinya. Nasib mereka benar-benar ditentukan dalam waktu 5 hari untuk SMA dan 4 hari untuk SMP.

Sungguh berat hal yang harus dilalui murid-murid ini, terutama para murid SMA, hasil kerja keras mereka selama 3 tahun harus ditentukan dalam hitungan hari, tidak bahkan dalam hitungan jam!

Perlu diketahui (dan sudah diserukan banyak pihak) bahwa hal ini amatlah tidak adil! Tapi mau bagaimana lagi.

Sangat disayangkan bahwa kecurangan adalah bagian yang tak terelakkan di UAN. Kecurangan itu biasa berbentuk kebocoran soal atau pun dijualnya kunci jawaban UAN. Yang lebih menyedihkan lagi para murid tidak menolak hal ini, bahkan mereka membeli atau berusaha mendapatkannya.

1 hal lain yang memprihatinkan adalah keberadaan pengawas yang biasanya tidak mengawas dengan baik dan asal-asalan dalam mengawas. Menyedihkan! Inilah potret pendidikan Indonesia. Jika hal ini terus berlanjut, bagaimana dengan masa depan Indonesia? Bagaimana kita mau mengalahkan MALAYSIA yang seringkali kita sebut sebagai saingan kita?

Hitungan hari untuk selamanya. Seharusnya para siswa berusaha untuk mengerjakan semaksimal mungkin, dan pihak lain juga mendukung agar proses regenerasi Indonesia berjalan dan menghasilkan orang-orang dengan mental jujur dan bersaing.

Dagelan Perwakilan Rakyat aka DPR

Well, semua orang pasti sudah tahu kericuhan DPR saat memungut suara mengenai Kasus Century.

Mereka ricuh karena berpendapat kalau pendapat merekalah yang paling benar. Sungguh konyol. DPR yang demikian benar-benar dewan perwakilan rakyat dalam arti yang sebenarnya. Mereka dengan sukses mewakili citra sebagian besar masyarakat Indonesia yang egois dan cenderung memaksakan kehendaknya masing-masing, serta mengandalkan fisik dalam mengatasi masalah. Bayangkan, hal yang biasa kita lihat di kampung-kampung terekspos dengan jelas di gedung MPR-DPR, dan parahnya hal tersebut disaksikan jutaan orang di seluruh Indonesia!

Saya pernah membaca suatu artikel di kompasiana, dan saya menemukan suatu pendapat menarik. Ada pendapat yang mengatakan bahwa penunjukkan orang-orang pansus yang berasal dari kalangan non-ekonom sangatlah konyol. Bukankah sebaiknya anggota Pansus diambil dari kalangan yang kompeten (para ekonom)? Hal tersebut bagaikan berkonsultasi penyakit mata kepada dokter gigi.

Sungguh, hal ini hanya bisa terjadi di Indonesia. Negaraku yang kaya.

Suicide Phenomenon

Ugh, sebenarnya banyak yang melintas di kepala selama seminggu ini, dan akhir-akhir ini, berita di Kompas.com bercerita entah tentang kelanjutan kasus Prita dan "tren" bunuh diri di mall. Setelah dipikir-pikir, bahas tentang "tren bunuh diri" saja deh.

Seperti yang telah diberitakan di koran, inet, dll dsb dst, dan yang jadi pertanyaan, kira-kira, kenapa sih hal demikian bisa terjadi dan dilakukan?

Kalau di pikir-pikir, seberat apa beban yang ditanggung oleh pribadi yang melakukan bunuh diri tersebut? Apakah tiada jalan lain? Ataukah mereka tidak ingin mencoba untuk mencari jalan keluar?

Tanpa niat menyinggung perasaan keluarga yang ditinggalkan, saya katakan dengan keras bahwa perbuatan bunuh diri itu sungguh bodoh! Hanya orang yang tidak dewasa secara mental dan iman yang akan melakukannya. Jikalau mereka dewasa, mereka pasti akan melihat secercah harapan dalam setiap kondisi, meskipun kondisi itu sangat berat.

Untuk media-media yang ada, tidaklah pantas bagi mereka untuk mengekspos kasus bunuh diri tersebut secara berlebihan sampai memasang foto-foto, bahkan metode bunuh diri yang digunakan secara lengkap, karena dikhawatirkan hal ini akan memunculkan preokupasi (pikiran berulang) bunuh diri, dan tidak menutup kemungkinan akan memberi ilham metode pelaksanaan bunuh diri.

So? Haruskah bunuh diri? No way. Di setiap kesulitan, seberat apa pun pasti ada jalan. Tinggal pintar-pintar kita menjaga hati mental dan pikiran.

Andaikan..

Hidup di kota besar, tempat jutaan orang menanam dan memupuk mimpi. Terlalu banyak pengandaian. Berbagai lika-liku mengenai Indonesia beserta penduduknya.

Andaikan saja orang-orang mau mengantri.

Andaikan para angkot tidak serampangan, pastilah lalu lintas menjadi lebih tertib.
Andaikan para polisi tidak mau kompromi, pastilah orang semakin hati-hati.
Andaikan saja para pejabat tidak korup, pastilah negara menjadi lebih baik.
Andaikan saja jalanan di pedalaman lebih rata, pastilah pengunjung dan perkembangan daerah lebih banyak dan baik.
Andaikan tidak ada urbanisasi, pastilah kota besar menjadi lebih lenggang.
Andaikan bajakan dilarang, pastilah para artis menjadi lebih makmur.
Andaikan orang tidak membuang sampah sembarangan, pastilah segalanya menjadi lebih bersih.
Andaikan orang tidak merokok, pastilah angka kehidupan semakin tua.

Andaikan...

Sedikit dari pengandaian di atas. Namun, pikirkanlah:

Andaikan bajakan dilarang, pastilah sebagian orang menjadi pengangguran.
Andaikan tidak ada urbanisasi, pastilah banyak orang yang dirugikan.
Andaikan tidak ada sekolah dengan tugasnya yang banyak, pastilah para siswa tidak siap menghadapi hidup.
Andaikan para angkot tidak serampangan, pasti, ada beberapa pihak yang terlambat.
Andaikan sampah tidak dibuang sembarangan, kemanakah para pemulung mencari sesuap nasi?
Andaikan orang tidak merokok, darimanakah pegawai perusahaan rokok mendapat penghidupan?

Andaikan, oh andaikan....

Sedikit banyak terinspirasi oleh Imagine - John Lennon

Recycling Facility vs Rubbish Bin

Pertama-tama, saya tidak akan berkoar mengenai recylcing facility atau pun rubbish bin! Recycling Facility, atau biasa disebut tempat pengolahan sampah. Sedangkan rubbish bin adalah tempat sampah.


Kedua hal di atas dapat menjadi simbol atau kiasan saat menggambarkan orang. Orang yang disebut tempat sampah adalah orang yang mampu menjadi tempat curhat yang baik, dan pada "tempat sampah" tersebut, tersimpan berbagai keluhan dari orang lain. Biasanya setiap orang memerlukan "tempat sampah"-nya masing-masing karena para "tempat sampah" tersebut dapat membantu mereka.



Menjadi "tempat sampah" itu baik, tapi ada yang lebih baik lagi, yaitu menjadi tempat pengolahan sampah. Mengapa? Seorang "tempat pengolahan sampah" adalah seorang yang tidak hanya menampung keluhan atau curahan hati orang lain, namun belajar dari hal-hal yang diutarakan orang lain. Bila seseorang menjadi "tempat pengolahan sampah", besar kemungkinan dia menjadi lebih dewasa, dan mungkin orang lain yang biasa menjadikannya "tempat sampah" akan merasakan feedback yang lebih baik.


Jadi, alangkah baiknya bila seseorang tidak sekedar menjadi "tempat sampah". Jadilah "tempat pengolahan sampah" dan jadilah dewasa!

Sampai Bertemu/Selamat Tinggal

Finally, ada kesempatan membuat postingan. Nampaknya semua sudah tahu, bahwa kemarin (2/9/'09) ada gempa, untuk para korban gempa, turut berduka cita, semoga para korban diterima di sisi-Nya, Amin.

Seperti yang sudah tertulis di postingan sebelumnya, sudah diketahui bahwa seorang teman saya pergi melanjutkan studi ke luar negeri. Kami mengantar dia dengan tangis (terutama teman cewek). Pada hari itu, saya berpikir akan 2 hal (yang saya anggap) penting:

Pertama: saat kami mengantar seseorang pergi, entah ke luar negeri untuk berbagai urusan dan diiringi dengan tangis, itu berarti orang tersebut berarti di mata teman-temannya. Detik itupun aku berpikir, apa bila aku berada di posisi tersebut, akankah aku mendapat tangis demikian?

Kedua: jikalau seseorang sudah mendapat respon demikian pada saat ia pergi ke tempat jauh, seperti apakah respon teman-temannya saat ia "pergi"? Mungkin pula, responnya lebih dari itu. Dampaknya kemungkinan besar luar biasa. Pertanda orang tersebut berarti dan meninggalkan sesuatu yang dapat dikenang. Pertanyaan yang sama terlintas di benakku, apakah teman-temanku akan memberi respon demikian saat aku "pergi", suatu hari nanti?

Pikirkanlah kedua pikiran di atas. Tanyakan itu kepada diri anda sendiri.

Aduh, postingan kali ini sifatnya "mellow" sekali ya. Tapi, yasudahlah. Lain kali pasti akan lebih ceria.

Changes

A friend of mine once told me: "No one changes! In fact they don't like what's bad in you!" It happened about 4-5 months ago where I had my worse period of my life (see my facebook notes: This Is The Worse). I thought that everyone has changed.

First after a friend of mine told me that, I thought that she was right. But now, I thought that she was wrong.

Changes is a natural things that occurred in every living organism, especially human. But now, I'll talk not about physical changes, but more in character. I think it's bullshit when someone state, "No one changes!" like my friend does, because, changes is necessary. One changes in someone's character has ability to changes others!

"Strange, isn't it? Each man's life touches so many other lives. When he isn't around he leaves an awful hole, doesn't he?"
- It's a Wonderful Life -

For closing, changes of live makes an ordinary people having an extraordinary life.